Your kids temper tantrums are nothing like my kids temper tantrums….
Do you ever feel like this Mom or Dad?
We’ve all been there, whether it’s a toddler in the middle of the store or our teen wanting to go to a party even though we said, “no.”
But what if I told you that there was a way you could curb your toddler’s temper tantrums while at the same time teach them the coping skills that will help that moody teen (the one you’ll be facing in no time) also manage his or her emotions?
I’m sure you’d jump at the chance to do this, right?
Well we recently chatted with Parenting Expert Holly Anderson, who shared how parents can better manage their kids’ tantrums to raise more grateful, resilient teens.
How to Handle Temper Tantrums
Look for the Bigger Problem
When a child is having a meltdown, we immediately look to the cause as being the “problem.” For example, that toy or treat you refused to purchase at the grocery store that led to your child laying face down in the vegetable aisle, kicking and screaming (hey, we’ve all been there).
But more often than not, there’s a bigger problem under the surface.
Is your child hungry? Is he tired? Maybe he is getting sick or feeling unwell?
Holly suggests looking for that deeper problem that’s causing the meltdown. Not only will that help you correct the problem (and perhaps next time, head it off at the pass), but it will also help you to respond with greater patience.
Give Your Child a Way to Articulate Feelings
This will vary a bit, depending on age, but try giving your words that he or she can use when angry. For example, are you frustrated? Are you angry?
Another idea (that works especially well for young kids), is to hand your child a piece of paper and draw how he or she feels on a piece of paper.
How to Prevent Temper Tantrums
You can teach your child that how they feel is a choice (although it doesn’t happen overnight).
Give him or her a piece of paper and suggest he or she writes down (or draws) all the things he or she is grateful for. Then you can bring out that paper when your child is upset and suggest that your child focuses on those things instead of what’s upsetting him or her.
Through this exercise, over time, you can teach your children that happiness is a choice and to focus on the things they’re grateful for.
Starting this practice when they’re young will help your children to be better at managing emotions as they get older.
Final Thoughts on How to Prevent Temper Tantrums
Like all things in parenting, nothing happens overnight. But teaching your children to regulate his or her own emotions is something that will have lifelong benefits in building a resilient child who bounces back.
What have you done to help teach your kids to manage their emotions?
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