What if 80% of our in-person family time with our children was done by the time they reach High School, would you do something different with your kids today?
As Tim Urban points out by the time our children reach 18, we’ve spent around 93% of our ‘in-person’ time together.
Kinda makes me tear up thinking about this as a dad of 3 amazing kids.
It also makes me pause for a moment to say, what am I doing with our family time now before they do reach 18. Am I making each moment count?
And as for my kids, when I have this conversation with them, will they also make this Family Time together more meaningful?
As Tim points out, there are 3 big takeaways from recognizing how limited our time really is with people.
Living in the Same Place as the People You Love
When we’re young, many of us dream of traveling the world, living in faraway places and experiencing new things.
But as exciting as that may sound (and it is exciting!) there are down sides to that, the big one being that living in different places than our family (or the people we love the most) means the time we spend with them will be limited.
You may only be able to visit your family one week out of the year. Which can mean very limited time remaining with parents or grandparents.
Living in the same area as those family members, on the other hand, means you have far more time remaining to enjoy being with the people who matter to you most.
You need to make a conscious effort to spend time with the people you love and not let the wrong priorities get in the way of actual face time.
There will always be other things that need to get done (work, chores, etc.), but if someone is a priority in your life, make that face time happen.
Quality Time Matters
It’s easy to be distracted by other things, even when we’re spending time with the people who matter to us the most.
Make sure you’re not only physically present, but also mentally present when you’re spending time with loved ones. (That may mean leaving digital distractions behind from time to time.)
Conclusion: Making Family Time Count
The 90 years the average person lives may seem like a long time. But when you start to look at those years in terms of events, it can seem like far fewer. And when you measure time in the amount of time you spend with the people you love the most… that’s when you realize how fast it goes and how short our time really is.
As Tim Urban points out in his article, 93% of the time we spend with our children happens by the time they’re 18.
There are 3 big takeaways here:
- Living in the same place as the people you love matters
- Priorities matter
- Quality time matters
What are your thoughts, mom and dad? Would you ever share this with your children to help them, too, recognize that we have to value the time we have left together?