This is going to be a conversation topic that I believe will have a huge impact on your family.
This conversation is one that you’ll most likely have more than once and each time you have it, it’ll be just as powerful.
You can tweak the depth in which you take this discussion with your children (pending their age) but it will really get them to:
- Really put on their critical thinking caps
- Show them anything is possible
- Help get them going in the right direction
Where did this Unique Conversation Topic Come From
I was listening to a recent Mindvalley podcast episode where the host interviewed Martin Rutte.
After listening to the podcast, I searched and listened to several other podcasts he was on.
One of my favorite was on the Finding Brave Podcast with Kathy Caprino. They went over several deep conversation topics during the interview, but they all focused around Martin’s 3 Heaven on Earth Questions which we’re about to go through right now and why I believe this can be a powerful conversation for your children and family.
3 (Questions) Conversation Topics for Kids Tonight
First, let me share the 3 questions so you can think about them yourself:
- Recall a time when you experienced Heaven on Earth. What was happening?
- Imagine you have a magic wand and with it you can create Heaven on Earth. What is Heaven on Earth for you?
- What simple, easy, concrete step(s) will you take in the next 24 hours to make Heaven on Earth real?
These questions are beautiful for all of us as a family to answer individually and each answer will be our own.
Question one you probably had something pop in your mind immediately. Take actress Cameron Diaz who loves the adrenaline rush of snowboarding. Riding from the top of the mountain to the bottom without ever touching the ground is so exciting. She may say that’s her heaven on earth or maybe yours is when you gave birth to your child. It’s different for each of us.
That’s second question, super powerful. It gets you and your child to really think about what would heaven and earth look like if you could create it. It doesn’t ask the “how”, it just asks the ‘what’ (more on this in a moment).
The final is also amazing because now you want to attach something simple and easy that you can do today to get going in that direction. Not someday… but in 24-hours!
Why I love this Conversation Topic
The conversation topic in question two can go many different ways according to Martin Rutte and it’s why I love it.
He shares the following 7 common gateways:
- Your Inner World: One may feel creating the perfect heaven on earth may be working internally to make oneself better and that in-turn will make the world better.
- Your Relationships: This could be working on your relationships with others, yourself or possibly the divine.
- Living Your Global Values: Maybe it’s the world experience, more peace or love globally.
- Your Outer World: This is a popular one where we become passionate about ending suffering, violence, hunger, water pollution, poverty or some other world epidemic.
- Taking on Institutions: This could be taking on business, healthcare, government, religion or maybe education.
- My Nation: One may wave that magic wand to create a better individual nation.
- This, Here, Now: Finally one may feel that this very moment, right now, the smell of the flowers is heaven on earth.
There is no right or wrong answer, but it really gets you to think. Question three is always amazing because it begins forward progress.
For your child or teenager question two might be answered with something as simple as, “I want to make the Varsity team next year,” that may be heaven on earth for them. They’re holding the magic wand to create whatever they want and it’s not asking them yet how they’ll achieve that (it removes that negative self-talk). It’s in question three where we can attach some next steps and further have fun with this conversation topic.
Conclusion: Interesting Conversation Topic
To conclude on this conversation topic, you can make it as deep and meaningful as you’d like.
My personal motto is a conversation is only as deep as the love we have for each other and thus this can be a really meaningful one with your family that you’ll want to revisit.
We’ll have these 3 conversation topics put into a conversation starter card printable over in our Parent only Facebook Group and this will be the discussion today (click-here to join the conversation).
This is a card (and set of questions) that you can pull out once every few months around the dinner table and see how answers (and interests) have changed over time. And, as one mom in our group recently shared, sometimes kids draw on other sources and respond with answers that they THINK are the “right” answer, or what they SHOULD say. It sometimes takes a bit of digging (and even revisiting the conversation repeatedly) to get to the root of what they really want.