Do you ever feel like you’re a “Burnt Out Mom”?
I’m sure you’ve seen a burnt out mom meme or two… but it’s no joke!
Mommy Burn Out is Real
All too often, moms are setting aside their own feelings, their need for a break, to take care of their family. And, as self-care expert Jody Agard explains in our interview (shared above), this can work for a while.
But that doesn’t last forever.
Eventually, all those feelings bubble up to the surface and come out as symptoms of resentment. And, as Jody points out, oftentimes when those feelings finally resurface, it’s an explosion. And it could be that Mom finally announces that she’s had enough and wants a divorce.
But all of this preventable. It’s just a matter of standing up for your needs and taking care of yourself, first.
And this is especially true for the stay-at-home moms who, while they may have everything they want, still need breaks. Being a stay-at-home-mom is exhausting, in its own right. It isn’t easy. And for the sake of the whole family, it’s important for Mom to take care of her own mental, emotional and physical health.
Stop Swimming Against the Current
One of the best pieces of advice Jody offers for moms is to accept where they are in life, right now.
Instead of beating yourself up over needing extra sleep rather than going to the gym in the morning (because your infant kept you up all night) or not being able to get dinner on time or grabbing take out for the third night in a row (because the last several evenings you’ve had to attend sports events for your teenager), just accept that this is where you are right now.
Give yourself grace.
Is life exactly like what you feel it should be? Perhaps not.
But that’s okay.
Just accept that this is where you are at your stage of life and stop trying to swim against the current.
Don’t beat yourself up for being “lazy.” Cut yourself a break, Mom.
Know that accepting where you are right now is actually a form of self-care. Know that you’re doing the best you can and be okay with that. This is just a season and it too shall pass. (Probably faster than you can imagine.)
Conclusion: Mom Burnout Help
Let’s be real. We all want to feel like we can do it all.
We don’t need a break. We can get up at 4:30 to work out, work all day or take care of the kids, fold the laundry, clean the house, get dinner on the table in a timely manner, help the kids with homework, get everyone to bed and then squeeze in time for your spouse and (hopefully) yourself.
But look at that list, Mom. It’s a LOT. And let’s be honest, it’s never-ending.
As soon as you get caught up on the laundry, there’s more. You prepare a big meal with plenty of leftovers… and then they’re somehow gone in a day or two and you have to start over.
And if you keep up this pace, you’re going to be a burnt out mom in no time.
It’s critical, for the sake of you, your marriage and your children, that you stand up for your own needs and take care of your OWN mental, physical and emotional health.
And accept where you are in life right now. There’s always a new season right around the corner. Stop trying to swim against the current to meet someone’s expectation (even your own) of what your life SHOULD look like, what you SHOULD be able to accomplish.
Give yourself some grace.