The 5 Second Rule has changed lives around the world.
It is transforming every aspect of people’s existence daily as more and more learn this powerful strategy backed by science.
Lives are turning around virtually within moments of learning this and you’re about to learn how it can help both you and your entire family.
The 5 Second Rule is assisting everyone with everything in life from careers, relationships, finances, stresses, weight loss, bad habits and so much more.
Adults all around the world are benefiting from this technique and today you’re about to learn it so you can teach your child this and change their future for the good.
Does your child have anxiety, stress, fears?
Do they procrastinate, have self-doubt?
Are they hesitating on taking action frequently because of uncertainties?
Well, say goodbye to all that because what you’re about to learn will not only massively change your child’s life, it will change your life also.
3 Main Benefits of the 5 Second Rule for Children
1. Teaches Children to Push Yourself and/or Make Better Decisions
Using the 5 Second rule can help teach your child to take immediate actions on those small things that might add up to bigger things. It can be something as simple as should I make my bed now? Also when used it can help pull you away from making poor decisions. Again something as small as I know mom told me to be home at 5PM, but maybe I’ll hang out with my friends 30 minutes longer and be home at 5:30PM?
2. Teaches Children to Build Courage
It can help your child learn to do things that might seem scary or outside of their comfort-zone. Examples could be standing up to a bully, speaking up in class when they might feel embarrassed and trying things that might otherwise seem new and scary.
3. Teaches Children To Control Their Thoughts
The 5 Second rule can also help your child learn how to change their mindset and their feelings. When theres an event, we have thoughts associated to it, those thoughts create feelings and our feelings control our behaviors. For example I’m joining a new school. What thought will your child have, positive or negative? That will control ultimately their feeling and how they behave the first day.
This is the big picture of how it works and though it may seem simple, it isn’t always easy, but it can change your child’s life. Let’s walk through each part of the 5 second rule for children so you can help them learn this amazing tool.
What is the 5 Second Rule?
The 5 Second Rule might seem silly and so basic, but honestly, it’s not or everyone would already be doing this.
The rule is simply: the minute you have a decision to make, you act on that goal immediately, allowing no time for hesitation to enter the picture.
The moment you have that instinct that something has to be done, you count backward 5-4-3-2-1, and like a rocket ship you go and move forward on that thought by taking action.
No time for hesitation or debate, you just simply take action.
5 Second Rule – Ted Talk
Take a moment before we go further to watch this Ted Talk given by Mel Robbins.
It’s simple, lives are changed, according to Mel, one 5-Second Rule at a time.
You’ll see that it teaches you, in essence, how to parent yourself to do the stuff you don’t want to do.
It’s learning to force yourself to do the uncomfortable, to break your routines.
More importantly, it’s having the ability to act on those very first few seconds when you feel like doing something, but then you start to think about it and within moments you’re not doing it.
You’ve either gotten uncomfortable, lazy, scared or you’ve let self-doubt talk you out of doing what you know you should do.
That alarm clock goes off and instead of saying 5 – 4 – 3 – 2 – 1 I’m up, you begin to think how tired you still are, start saying to yourself, I’ll drive the kids to school and you lean over and hit snooze.
Maybe it’s the kids are off to school and you’re getting ready to go to the gym and your Facebook notification dings from a friend inviting you to coffee, and you begin to think, and next thing you know you’re skipping the gym. It happens to all of us and it’s those first few seconds that make the biggest difference in doing what we know we should do vs. not doing it.
Imagine doing everything you know you should do in life without letting distractions, discomfort or the unknown stop you.
You know deep inside this is exactly what parenting is all about.
How many times do you have to tell your children to do what they don’t want to do because you know it’s for their good?
That’s in essence what this talk is about. Watch this video, and then let’s continue.
The Power of the Push of the 5 Second Rule
So you’ve watched this video, so now let’s talk about how to apply the 5 Second Rule to parenting.
Procrastination plagues many children and adults.
So, unfortunately, many sit around waiting for inspiration to hit or some “external” force to prompt someone to take action.
Now as parents, sometimes we can be the “external” force, if that’s our parenting style, but long-term that doesn’t necessarily build the type of child who’ll learn to take action by themselves. In fact they might be more likely to procrastinate and put off doing today what they feel can be done tomorrow.
It’s that feeling of either external forces controlling our lives or internal (ourselves) feeling we have control.
Those who have a strong inner Locus of Control tend to feel they have more power to make decisions and have control over their life vs. someone else.
Studies have shown that those with a stronger inner locus of control tend to live happier lives, perform better academically, and have greater success in life. They’re also more likely to take action on their own long-term, as opposed to waiting for someone to tell them to do something.
That’s where the challenge comes in as a parent.
You see the “power of the push” is using 5 – 4 – 3 – 2 -1 and you go, take action and assert your own control.
The dilemma, though, is if you are always the “push” behind your child’s action, what happens when you’re not around and they get older and are on their own?
A way to prevent this is by giving your child choices to make so this turns the locus of control back to your child internally, versus you being the external push.
For instance, ask your child to decide what type of vegetable they want for dinner or whether they will do their homework before dinner or after?
The Power of Courage and The 5 Second Rule
Most of our instincts as humans is to play it safe and stay inside our comfort zone.
Robbins shares a story in her book about Rosa Parks back in 1955 when she refused to give up her seat on the bus.
She was arrested, as we know, but with this being spoken about everywhere and the energy high, Rosa recruited a preacher to help her put together a protest. This preacher didn’t think much about it. He was caught up in the energy of this protest and he decided to lead. That preacher was Martin Luther King Jr. and he later wrote that had he thought more about the nomination he probably would have said no.
The rest, as they say, is history, but had either of those two played it safe, who knows how history would have played out.
Daily, we have the opportunity to use the 5 Second Rule, step outside our comfort-zone, face our fears and become courageous.
It is in those moments where exceptional lives are formed and it’s the instinct to simply say 5 – 4 – 3 – 2 – 1.
This is where champions are formed and this is where the beauty is in the internal push.
Waiting for the Right Time and The 5 Second Rule
If you’re waiting for a sign, this is it.
Mel discusses in her book how Billionaire Steve Wozniak, co-founder of Apple, had a ton of doubt in starting Apple and wanted to hold off. He was worried about quitting his day job until, finally, some good friends convinced him.
He was initially waiting for “The Right Time.”
So how can we, as parents, teach our children to stop waiting for “the right time”?
We’ve all heard the saying, why do today what can be done tomorrow. Flip it.
Make it your family motto to do today what others will put off until tomorrow.
“Today I will do what others won’t so tomorrow I can do what others can’t.” Jerry Rice
Laundry basket filling up? Do it today vs. waiting for tomorrow.
Lawn needs to be mowed? Do it today vs. waiting for tomorrow.
Project for school due in 3 weeks? Do it this week vs. waiting till next.
Practice what you preach to your child and follow this 5-Second rule yourself to lead by example in living the life of “no time like the present.”
Feelings Shouldn’t Control Actions
Athletes, Olympians and superstars are great examples of pushing past feelings and doing what’s right.
For example, you set out to do a 3-mile run and your body begins to feel pain near mile one. You know you’re not even halfway through. Will you let that feeling of pain change your thought from a 3-mile run to a 2-mile run or will you push through that feeling?
Mel shares how athletes who have the ability to separate themselves from this feeling of “pain” are able to push on to the end goal.
She shares the study by neuroscientist Antonio Damasio, where he concludes that emotions are the deciding factor for humans and that many of us “Feel and Act” verse “Think and Act.”
Mel argues, then, that since we’re more likely to act on our “Feelings,” we should put the 5 Second Rule into force. Instead of letting our feelings or fears make the decision, catch yourself and 5 – 4 – 3 – 2 -1.
As parents, this is where, for instance, if your child is looking to quit a sport because of pain or fears, you should remind them of the commitment they made for the season. Talk with them that this is a feeling of discomfort and to make the decision to commit to the end of the season and then reevaluate. It’s like wanting to stop before hitting the halfway point and it’s helping them get around that marker. Oftentimes, as you know, when we push ourselves, that’s when we get stronger.
How to End Procrastination with the 5 Second Rule
Procrastination eases the pressures of life.
Procrastinating doesn’t make someone lazy all of the time, it’s actually a way some deal with stress.
She shares how Psychology professor Timothy Pychyl revealed that procrastination is the subconscious lust for gratification.
Since procrastinating offers relief from the “stress,” we’re pulled towards it.
To overcome the temptation of Procrastination, Dr. Pychyl shares, just get started.
This is where the 5 Second Rule can come in handy.
Mel shares in the book, when you’re feeling procrastination entering, immediately shift to the internal locus of control (which we like) and assert the 5 – 4 – 3 – 2 – 1 and get started to reassert that control of your life internally.
Be a Warrior Versus a Worrier
A study by Dr. Karl Pillemer of Cornell University is shared in the book.
He did a 10-year study discussing the meaning of life with senior citizens.
The overall consensus was most seniors felt they spent too much of life worrying verse living each day to it’s fullest.
The elders shared how much of life was spent thinking about all the bad things that may happen versus actually spending the time focusing on concrete problem-solving (a much better choice).
Children of all ages have fears that cause worry and they increase as our children move on to middle school and high school.
Work with your children to realize living a life of fear and anxiety will only cause regrets in the future.
She shares these two great questions that I feel you should share with your children. First, when they feel themselves beginning to worry, count down from 5 – 4 – 3 – 2 – 1 so they can gain control and then ask:
- What am I grateful for in this moment?
- What do I want to remember?
Reality is, there’s much more in life to be grateful for than the number of things there are to worry about. The more our children are able to practice this, the less they’ll have to feel anxious about.
Conclusion: The 5 Second Rule
Hopefully, you’ve seen by now how the 5-second rule can change not only your life but that of your child’s.
Yes, it’s simple, but as Mel points out throughout her book, it’s not easy.
Our habits and our mindset can all change when we make the decision to implement the 5 Second Rule into our lives.
We can crush our fears, our anxiety, our procrastinating, poor habits and so much more by simply switching our Locus of Control to internal. Do this before allowing self-doubt or the feeling of comfort to take control, we can count backward 5 – 4 – 3 – 2 -1 and take action immediately.
As a parent, do you see the power this can have for your child by learning this skill early on in life?
Teach them this next time you sense they’re feeling nervous or anxious. Practice this yourself.
One final thought. Remember the Locus of Control. No one (especially our children) likes to be told externally what to do.
Consider using lipstick or a dry erase marker and putting on your mirrors in your bathrooms and around the house 5 – 4 – 3 – 2 – 1.
Your children will inevitably ask why you’re doing this.
Let them know you’re doing it for yourself and explain why and then move on with your day. If they ask questions, discuss it.
If they don’t ask, keep it up on the mirrors and wait a few days.
Share how you used it over Dinner one night and continue sharing your stories over the next 30 days.
Your children are bound to start practicing this amazing strategy and it’s definitely a key ingredient for life’s recipe for success.
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Are you going to give this a try?
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